asexual vs low libido: they’re not the same thing

People keep confusing this, so I kind of want to make it very clear and very simple because it is. Low libido means I used to want sex or I feel like I should want sex and that wanting has decreased or it has disappeared and it bothers me. Something has changed, there was a before. Asexuality means I do not feel sexual attraction towards people.

It's not a change, it's not a decrease, there was no before. This is just how it's always been. I think the single most clarifying question between the two is just was there a before? And if you can remember a time where you looked at someone and you felt a pull towards them, feeling that I want to be close with that person specifically, I want a bodily connection and that feeling has faded over time, no matter the reason, then that might be low libido.

Talk to a doctor, check your hormones, you have changed, explore medical side effects and something might have changed maybe hormonally. If you can never, like, don't remember ever feeling that pull never in your life. I've personally spent my whole life looking at people and trying to figure out what they're talking about when they talk about sexual attraction and hotness and oh, that person looks great and I want to go do something because that person looks great. That's more like asexuality.

Nothing needs to be fixed, this is who you are unless you want to check it out in other doctor and fine, you can do that. Maybe it is some sort of low libido, maybe it is some sort of hormonal imbalance that you want to fix, but most likely chances are that if you've never felt sexual attraction and you're old enough to should have felt it by now. If you had it in your body, then likely you're asexual. Low libido means something has changed and asexuality means that there was no nothing to change from the beginning.

One is medical, the other one is a identity and both are valid. The distinction matters because it guides you towards seeking a community or seeking medical advice. And although you can do both, maybe you should do both because you never know what could happen in your body. A community is way more valuable if you are asexual because you're going to feel way more connected with the people around you and you're going to understand that you're not broken and you're going to stop trying to fit the box that society made for us when it comes to romantic relationships.