free · the field card
the seven kinds of attraction,
free, on one page.
you’ve felt these things your whole life. you just never had the words for them. here are the words, on one page you can print, save, or keep on your phone.
free, no wall, no catch. the card opens in your browser right here, and the pdf is one tap away.
what’s on it
all seven kinds of attraction, one line each, plus the one test worth memorising: how to tell love from limerence in about ten seconds. the rest is one letter a week.
more free cards
- love, or limerence? the fastest way to tell the real thing from the state that only feels like it.
- the friend crush. yes, it is real.
- am i asexual? a calm, no-pressure primer you write on.
- love, or just comfort? the two look identical from the outside and feel completely different from the inside.
- known, or just familiar? most of the people in your life recognise you.
- the spark, or the pattern? the pull you keep calling chemistry is often just recognition.
- the room test. six things that do not look like abuse, and the one question that checks all of them.
- the romantic dial. romantic attraction described with the sexual part taken out, and the four things that get mistaken for it.
- what to hand over. the one-page worksheet for deciding which half of your work an AI should do, and which half stays yours.
- the sentences. what to actually say to a friend when you want them to know what they are to you.
- the seven kinds of crush. one word for seven different experiences, which is why it feels ambiguous.
- you do not need a new you. a landmark starts a thing and cannot sustain it, and those are two different jobs.
- tell me about a time you felt most loved. the question that replaces the love languages quiz.
- the deeper questions. twelve questions for two people, in three rounds, and each round goes a bit deeper than the last.
if you want to work it out on paper
the words for it
the card, and all nine of these stays free and stays here. the workbook is the same thinking in one order, with ruled space after every question, because the point is not what i think, it is what turns out to be true for you once you write it down. 47 pages, two files, one to read on a screen and one to print.
get the workbook · $12see what is in it
you get the next version free, which is how i can ship this one and keep working on it.