every video, one card each

attraction

7 types of attraction most people don’t know exist

the whole thesis in one video: attraction isn’t one thing, it’s seven, and you have names for three.

• attraction is several distinct feelings we collapse into one word
• ace people had to build this vocabulary out of necessity
• everyone has all seven, sexual and romantic just drown the rest out

attraction

sexual and romantic attraction are NOT the same thing

why wanting someone and wanting a life with them are separate wirings that can point different ways.

attraction

the thing that makes someone instantly attractive

the real, unglamorous driver behind “instant” attraction, and why it’s rarely about looks.

asexuality

what the world looks like without sexual attraction

three minutes inside the ace vantage point, and why it reveals the other six attractions.

asexuality

asexuality: the video I wish existed when I was 15

the plain, kind introduction to asexuality she needed and didn’t have.

asexuality

everything non-asexual people get wrong about asexuality

the common myths, corrected, celibacy, low libido, “can’t be touched”, and the rest.

asexuality

my boyfriend thought asexual meant I couldn’t be touched

why touch isn’t only ever sexual, and the vocabulary problem hiding inside a “sex problem”.

asexuality

how intimacy works in my asexual relationship

what closeness actually looks like when sexual attraction isn’t the engine.

asexuality

asexual vs low libido: they’re not the same thing

drive vs attraction, the distinction almost every argument about asexuality trips over.

• libido is your sex drive; asexuality is about attraction
• you can have a libido and still feel no sexual attraction
• they are separate axes that get constantly conflated

asexuality

am i asexual or is there just something wrong with me

the identity spiral of asking the question, and why nothing about you is broken.

asexuality

being asexual taught me why most relationships fail

what an empty box teaches you about the other two carrying far too much.

love & limerence

how to know it’s not love, in 76 seconds

the fastest test for love vs limerence: does the feeling survive certainty, or need the ache?

• love gets stronger with security; limerence gets stronger with uncertainty
• run the “imagine they’re certain about you” test
• a clear rejection can feel like relief, that’s the tell

love & limerence

a crush over 2 weeks is just undiagnosed limerence

when a crush overstays, it’s usually the obsessive state with a name, not a deepening love.

love & limerence

3 feelings you’re confusing for love

the three impostors that wear love’s symptoms and lead you somewhere love wouldn’t.

love & limerence

why we should fall in love slowly

the case against the vertigo, letting closeness accumulate instead of detonating it.

love & limerence

how to lose the person you love, in 90 seconds

the small, common moves that quietly end the relationships we most wanted to keep.

love & limerence

the biggest mistake people make in love

the one recurring error, reading intensity as proof, and what to do instead.

friendship & loneliness

how to tell if you like someone or just want to be their friend

the friend crush is real, how to tell a squish from a romantic pull.

• there’s a platonic equivalent of a crush (a “squish”)
• wanting someone in your life ≠ wanting to date them
• the difference determines how you should act on it

friendship & loneliness

you’re not bad at friendships. you were never taught how

adult friendship is a skill nobody teaches, and the absence of a script is the real problem.

friendship & loneliness

why spontaneous one-on-one conversations create the deepest friendships

the unstructured, inefficient hours are the ones that actually build closeness.

friendship & loneliness

nobody prepares you for how lonely adulthood actually is

why the friends stop happening after university, and why it’s structural, not a flaw in you.

friendship & loneliness

how I found friends who actually inspire me

going from proximity friends to chosen ones, how to find people who raise your ceiling.

friendship & loneliness

platonic life partners are the future

your person doesn’t have to be your romantic partner, the relationship our hierarchy has no slot for.

friendship & loneliness

silence is a love language, but no one teaches us that

comfortable quiet as a form of intimacy we’re never taught to read.

attraction & the self

your type is not your type. it’s your childhood wound

the pattern in who you fall for is older than the people you fall for, attachment doing the choosing.

attraction & the self

the reason you like certain people has nothing to do with who they are

sometimes the attraction is about who you get to be near them, not them at all.

attraction & the self

who told you to want that?

unpicking inherited desire, how much of your “type” was ever actually yours.

attraction & the self

stop trying to be their type

why contorting yourself into someone’s preference backfires, and what to do with the urge.

attraction & the self

the psychology of craving male validation

when the wanting is really a hunger to be chosen, where it comes from and what it stands in for.

attraction & the self

give me 6:48 and I’ll make you instantly more attractive

attractiveness as something you do, not something you are, the parts actually in your control.