a tool · two systems, pulled apart
what’s your romantic orientation,
and your sexual one?
when you say someone is straight, do you mean who they fall in love with, or who they want to sleep with? most people have never had to separate the two, because for them the answers match.
they don’t have to. sexual attraction and romantic attraction are two different systems. this pulls yours apart and names each one on its own.
not a test witha right answer.
just the words.
12 questions. nothing is stored. it all runs on your device, nobody sees your answers, including me. your result shows up right here, no email needed.
about three minutes. no right answers, no score, just two words that might finally fit.
what this can name, if you’d rather read first
- heteroromantic asexual · you fall in love with a different gender, but you don’t experience sexual attraction. (this one’s me.)
- biromantic heterosexual · your heart falls for more than one gender, your body responds to a different gender than yours.
- homoromantic bisexual · you fall in love with the same gender, but feel sexual attraction to more than one.
- aromantic heterosexual · you feel sexual attraction to a different gender, but don’t fall in love or want romance.
- panromantic pansexual · for you, neither the heart nor the body sorts people by gender.
- aromantic asexual (aroace) · little or no attraction of either kind, and a full, complete way to be.
these are real, and searchable, and every one of them was told to pick a single label that never fit. the words come from the split attraction model, and there’s more on asexuality if that’s the part that lands.