the field guide · part V — attraction & the self
the psychology of craving validation
when the wanting is really a hunger to be chosen. where it comes from and what it’s standing in for.
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everything worth reading, hearing and watching on this — books, podcasts, articles, studies, and the videos. tap a format to filter.
- study
where the need to be chosen is learned, and why it attaches to the least available people.
- book
Women Who Love Too Much · Robin Norwood
the classic on mistaking the hunger for approval for love.
- book
Attached · Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
the anxious-attachment engine underneath the craving for validation.
- podcast
Where Should We Begin? · Esther Perel
hear the difference between wanting a person and wanting to be wanted.
- video
