the field guide · part V — attraction & the self
why you like who you like
sometimes the attraction isn’t about them at all — it’s about who you get to be near them. how to tell the difference.
the shelf
everything worth reading, hearing and watching on this — books, podcasts, articles, studies, and the videos. tap a format to filter.
- study
Mere-exposure effect (Zajonc, 1968)
we like what we’re near — familiarity does a lot of the work we credit to chemistry.
- study
Misattribution of arousal (Dutton & Aron, 1974)
adrenaline read as attraction — proof we routinely mis-source our own feelings.
- book
How to Not Die Alone · Logan Ury
the hidden decision-patterns behind who you pursue, and how to interrupt them.
- video
