the field guide · part III — love & its counterfeits
why we should fall in love slowly
against the vertigo. what it means to let closeness accumulate instead of detonating it.
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everything worth reading, hearing and watching on this — books, podcasts, articles, studies, and the videos. tap a format to filter.
- study
The 36 questions (Aron et al., 1997) · Arthur Aron
closeness can be built deliberately, through escalating mutual self-disclosure — the opposite of the lightning bolt.
- book
Modern Romance · Aziz Ansari & Eric Klinenberg
how choice overload and fast tech reshaped courtship, and what it costs.
- podcast
Modern Love · The New York Times
essays on love that take the slow, particular, un-cinematic version seriously.
- video
- video
