platonic life partners are the future

Two people in their 30s, one man, one woman, are living together. They share rent, they split groceries, they have each other's in the list of emergency contacts. Maybe they're even somewhat married and getting all of the tax benefits. If one of them needed help in the ER, then the other would know their blood type, allergies, insurance.

But, they'd never been on a date, they never will. They are platonic life partners, and apparently this is one of the biggest trends of 2036, which I didn't know about. Now that I'm learning about it, I think it's the coolest thing that ever happened. And also, why did it take so long for us to accept this?

So, there's a whole wave of people, mostly millennials and Gen Z, who are deciding that the person that they choose to live their life with does not need to be the same person that they sleep with, or even that they're romantically involved with. Honestly, I feel like the logic is pretty simple, because we basically build our entire domestic infrastructure based on romantic passion. Housing, financing, emergency fund, etc. , etc.

And romantic passion is one of the most unstable forces in human history. It fades away, it shifts, it changes. It's basically based on hormones when you first started. And when the person fades, or the relationship fades, you lose your home, you lose your stability, you have a lot of paperwork to fill, your daily companion, your sex partner, everything all at once.

A platonic life partner actually removes all of that. Of course, the friendship doesn't have the normal highs of a relationship, or like as high as the relationship, but it doesn't also have the catastrophic blows. And I think it's pretty safe to say that it's normal for people to choose that. It's more durable, because it's not built on something that burns.

That's not to say that your romantic partner cannot be your best friend. If it's both, then amazing. But, in most cases, that's probably not true. Probably you found other friends that are as better best friends than your romantic partner.

And I think the reason why I love this concept so much, and that I support it so much, is that actually people are realizing that romantic relationships are probably not as important or maybe less important than friend relationships. Friendship can be better than romance and it is probably more important than romance. I think we've been asking romance and romantic partners of too much and that is kind of burning away the relationship itself. The romantic relationship now needs to be the source of passion, the source of financial stability basically and normal stability and emotional support and domestic partnership and intellectual stimulation and physical comfort and identity and meaning and and and and I feel like a single person cannot really hold on to all of that and this is why most relationships fail because when you put so much pressure on a single person and on a single chemistry that you have on each other, of course it's going to fail in the long run.

I feel like generally there are so little relationships that actually lasting without with both people being happy long-term. And the reason why I feel like for me this is so important is because I'm asexual and I've always been searching for best friends before I've been searching for romantic partners. I always had best friends in my life and right now currently it comes to be that my best friend is also my romantic partner, but it never started with the seeking of a romantic partner. It always started with the seeking of a best friend for life.

And the hierarchy of the romantic partner being always at the top and then everything else kind of hierarchy down never really makes sense to me. Although now yeah, I'm spending a lot of time with my romantic partner, I feel like I do see the problems of not spending as much time with my friends and also my romantic partner is my best friend. But I do want to say that I do want to say that friendships are not necessarily less important than romantic relationships and I feel like people who are not asexual are also starting to realize that. Probably putting all the eggs in the romance basket is not that good because you're putting a lot of pressure on a single relationship in your life.

And not necessarily because romance is bad, because it's clearly not, but it's definitely not enough on its own. And I feel like this pressure is on romantic relationships and marriage in general is why we have such a big problem with children, marriage, divorce rates, etc. , etc. And right now I'm in Japan and they also have like a huge problem with everything here.

Like for example, there's something called herbivore men, which is basically a guy, which I think is like such a stupid name, but whatever. A man that chooses to opt out of romantic relationships. And this is not necessarily because they're asexual, it's just because they don't want to take everything that is like the financial responsibility, the gender roles that come with it, the social performance, and there's so many rules that are unspoken in Japan that I fully understand why people would not want to be in a romantic relationship. And also they're very shy, so it's probably hard for them to actually get in a relationship in the first place, but but that's another story.

Another thing that I noticed is that in Argentina, for example, or like in Latin America generally, there's a lot of physical touch between friends, and like that's not sexual touch at all. It's just like physical comforting friendship touch. And I feel like in not so touchy cultures like East Asia, and in Romania we're also very touchy, um or like I don't know, West Europe, even the US, people don't really are not as touchy and comforting with each other. And I feel like the moment that you introduce this comfort, like related touching with your friends, and like you hug them, you hold their hand, you I don't know, help them when they need, things like that.

I think the moment you do that that moment you don't really need a romantic relationships as much because you're getting a part of the comfort of touch from other sources. And I feel like that's so healthy because then you can create stronger bonds with other people and different bonds with other people. But anyway, my point is that the kind of line between relationship and friendship is drawn at different lengths and in different places for very different cultures. And in most of the cultures you wouldn't live with your best friend for life, but I'm very glad we're trying to redraw the line because I feel like it's the most healthy way of redrawing the line, too.

And in any case, one marriages were legalized because men wanted to give their sons legally all of their land, so they needed to marry and create a family, the concept of a family, to pass down like to heirs and through generations and generations, and also keep their name, so it's easier to keep track of their heirs. That was the reason why marriages even exist in the first place. Second, before we started having larger cities, civilizations, we used to have a lot of non-monogamous relationships because men could take care of multiple women at the same time, and they were mostly away hunting and could provide for a lot of different people. That's why even in the animal world, usually the guy has way more like wives, I don't know, like partners than um the woman has.

But, because we moved into the cities, then the man could not really take care or like provide safety in the context of that. It's very maddening for me to even discuss this thing because the only reason we need safety in the first place is because of men. But, anyway, when we moved to the cities, the man the man could not provide an entire house and take care of multiple wives because the distance was different, they had to have multiple properties, things got more complicated, so that's why monogamy even exists in the first place in our society. Yeah, anyway, that was the end of it.

But, what I'm trying to say is that everything was made for a reason in the past, and we have all the rights to rethink those decisions that have been made for how our society should grow in the past, and we've been in this one man-to-woman relationship, romantic, for a while, thousands and thousands of years, and as the world is changing, we can also think of other ways to change. And I think it's cool that a term exists for this. Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this video. I hope you learned something from it, and maybe you thought about it from a different perspective.

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments. So, if you want to start a conversation or like even thought about this or even are doing this in your current living situation, I would love to hear from you because I think it's such a interesting topic and different topic than what we usually see on the internet. If you enjoyed this video, I'm sure you're going to like this playlist, too. Love you guys.

Have a best day of your life. Kisses. Bye-bye.