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a workbook · 48 pages

the words for it,
all of them this time.

the free card names the seven kinds of attraction on one page. this is the rest: every kind with its own page, the eight confusions people actually arrive with, one fast test for each, and ruled space to work out your own answer. a workbook, not a book. nobody reads your pages but you.

get the guide · $12

two files: one to read on a screen, one to print. instant download, yours forever, including every future update of it.

the words for it: the complete field guide, cover

what's inside

  1. part one the seven kinds of attraction. each of the seven on its own page: what it is, what it gets mistaken for, the research and reading to go deeper, and ruled space to notice where it shows up in your life.
  2. part two the eight diagnostics. love or limerence. love or comfort. a crush or a squish. known or just familiar. the spark or the pattern. each with its tells, one fast test, and space to run it on your own situation.
  3. part three the vocabulary. thirty-two terms worth having: the concepts, the biases, the a-spec words, each with one plain definition.
a page from part one: sexual attraction, with the go-deeper shelf and writing space a page from part two: the love-or-limerence diagnostic with ruled writing space

the honest part

i would rather tell you than have you find out. nearly everything the guide teaches is already free on this site, and here is exactly where.

free, right now, no email

if free and scattered works for you, take it. that is not a trick, it is most of what i make.

only in the guide

  • all of it in one order, which is the part that turns nine scattered pages into four weeks of work
  • a page of ruled space after every question, so it is a thing you fill in rather than a thing you read
  • two files. the cream one to read on a screen, and a white one for printing, because a full page of cream costs an ink flood on a home printer and comes out muddy

you are paying for the shape and the space, not for secret information. there isn't any.

and the next version is already written down

v2 goes to $19 and adds:

  • a four-week sequence with a finish line, starting with an inventory of everybody currently on your mind before any vocabulary gets applied to them
  • what other people said: three real comments at the head of each part, out of 745 harvested, because knowing you are not the only one who could not tell is the job an essay cannot do
  • a page per diagnostic on what it looks like when you get it wrong, which is the part nobody reads a diagnostic expecting to need

everyone who buys now gets it free. that is how this works, forever, for every version after that too. buying today is the cheapest this ever is.