free · the field card
the seven kinds of attraction,
free, on one page.
you’ve felt these things your whole life. you just never had the words for them. here are the words, on one page you can print, save, or keep on your phone.
free, no wall, no catch. the card opens in your browser right here, and the pdf is one tap away.
what’s on it
- sexual wanting sexual contact. one of seven, not the main event.
- romantic wanting to build a life with someone.
- aesthetic you find them beautiful and you want to do nothing about it.
- sensual wanting to be held with no interest in where it leads.
- intellectual you want their mind, not their life.
- platonic the friend crush. everyone has them. nobody names them.
- alterous closer than a friend, not a crush, no word for it until now.
plus the one test worth memorising: how to tell love from limerence in about ten seconds.
want the rest?
one letter a week.
the card is the start. the rest is a letter a week: the word for one feeling you’ve had but couldn’t name, as i find them. if that sounds like your kind of thing, come sit with us.
no pressure, no spam, no gatekeeping. come see if it clicks. and if it doesn’t, that’s okay too.
more free cards
- love, or limerence?. the fastest way to tell the real thing from the state that only feels like it.
- the friend crush. yes, it is real.
- am i asexual?. a calm, no-pressure primer you write on.
- love, or just comfort?. the two look identical from the outside and feel completely different from the inside.
- known, or just familiar?. most of the people in your life recognise you.
- the spark, or the pattern?. the pull you keep calling chemistry is often just recognition.
- the room test. six things that do not look like abuse, and the one question that checks all of them.
- the romantic dial. romantic attraction described with the sexual part taken out, and the four things that get mistaken for it.
- what to hand over. the one-page worksheet for deciding which half of your work an AI should do, and which half stays yours.
if you want to work it out on paper
the words for it
the card, and all nine of these stays free and stays here. the workbook is the same thinking in one order, with ruled space after every question, because the point is not what i think, it is what turns out to be true for you once you write it down. 48 pages, two files, one to read on a screen and one to print.
get the workbook · $12see what is in it
you get every future version of it free, which is how i can ship this one and keep working on it.